如何与美国人交朋友 Rules for Making Friends with Americans 0点

Rules for Making Friends with Americans

How to make friends with people from a different culture? The rules are as follows:

RULE 1: Appreciate the person. Most Americans like to be recognized as individuals

as someone special with unique characteristics and personalities. Therefore, never

say, “You’re from America so I want to be your friend.” Also don’t imply that

the reason why you approached them is because you wanted someone to practice your

English with. That turns people off. Instead try saying, “You seem like a real

nice and interesting person and I would like to get to know you better.” This way,

they are much more inclined to be friendly because you see them as a three

dimensional person and appreciate them for who they are in the inside. And by doing

so, you not only learn about America and practice your English, but also gain a real

friend in the process.

RULE 2: Quit calling us foreigners. Please refrain from calling a foreigner a

foreigner especially in his face. The word makes people feel like an outsider, and

even unwelcome, suggesting separation and insurmountable differences, widening an

already existing gap in the situation.

When Americans travel, they rarely say, “I’m foreign to your place.” They tend

to say, “I’m new in town. I’m new here.” The reason is because new and unfamiliar

things can become old and familiar. But can foreign things become native? Aha? You

catch my drift.

RULE 3: Just do it. Some students like to be told about American culture but are less

interested in spending the time and the effort to actually experience it. As Americans

always say, “Get your hands dirty.” Until you have first hand and hands on experience,

you’ll never really know anything. Right?

So whenever you have the opportunity to participate in American culture, don’t just sit

there and watch. Get up and get involved!

RULE 4: Find that common language. Now I must stress the importance of finding a common

language. By that I don’t mean English, Chinese, German, French, etc. I mean finding

something you have in common with another person on a spiritual and philosophical level:

likes, dislikes, worldviews, ways of thinking, and attitudes toward life. And to start,

you must first enhance your knowledge of the particular culture from which your potential

new friend comes from.

It’s paramount to keep in mind that people want to talk to you because of who you are

and what you have to say, not because you speak a particular language or dialect. After

all, the most important purpose for learning a language is to communicate with other PEOPLE.

如何与来自另一文化的人交朋友呢？规则如下：

规则1：欣赏他人。大多数美国人喜欢被人看作一个有着独特个性和特点的人。因此，千万不要说，“因为你来自美国，所以我想和你交朋友。”而且，也不要暗示你之所以接近他们是因为你想跟人练习英语。那会使人厌烦。但你可以试着说：“你看来真是不错，而且令人感兴趣，我愿意进一步和你加深了解。”这样，他们会更愿意对你友好，因为你把他们看成是立体的真实的人，而且欣赏他们的内在品性。这样做，你不仅了解了美国人、锻炼了你的英语，而且在此过程中还得到了一个真朋友。

规则2：别叫我们老外。请不要称外国人为老外，尤其是别当面这样叫。这个词让人感到像个局外人，甚至是不受欢迎的，意味着隔离和不可逾越的差异，扩大当时已经存在的差距。

美国人旅行时，他们很少说，“我对你们这儿很陌生。”他们往往说：“我刚到这个城市，刚到这儿。”个中原因是新的和不熟悉的事物可以变成旧的和熟悉的。但是外来物能变成土生土长的吗？啊哈，你明白我的意思了。

规则3：付诸行动。有些学生喜欢别人给他们讲美国文化，却少有兴趣花时间、精力实际去体验它。就像美国人常说的：“把你的手弄脏。”只有当你有了第一手体验并亲身实践过，你才能真正有所了解。对不对？

所以，不论何时你有参与美国文化的机会，不要只坐在那儿看，起来参与其中吧！

规则4：找共同语言。现在，我必须强调找一共同语言的重要性。我指的并不是通常意义上的英、中、德、法等语言。我说的是寻找你与他人在精神方面和人生哲学方面的共同点：喜欢什么、不喜欢什么、世界观、思维方式以及对生活的态度。开始时，你必须首先加强对你想与之交朋友那人的文化背景的了解。

最重要的是要记住，人们之所以想和你交谈，是因为你身为你，因为你所要说的话，而不是因为你讲某种语言或方言。总之，学习一门语言的最重要的目的就是与他人交流。

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